thomas kilmann conflict resolution styles

Thomas Kilmann (that's 2 last names) 5 conflict resolution styles

1. Competing "My Way or the Highway"
This mode is characterized by high assertiveness and low cooperativeness, with a goal to win. Associated actions are quick action, making unpopular decisions and being certain about the correctness of position on critical issues.
-> I'm like this on issues I feel comfortably opined on + with people I'm close to (both necessary, not sufficient, conditions)

2. Collaborating "Two Heads are better than One"
High assertiveness and high cooperativeness, with a goal of engaging other people towards win-win solutions. Associated actions: integrating solutions, learning, merging perspectives, gaining commitment, improving relationships.
-> I'm like this in the context of group projects, for the most part.

3. Compromising "Let's make a Deal
Moderate assertiveness and cooperativeness, involving negoiating or splitting differences in opinion with the goal of finding a middle ground. Appropriate uses of this mode of CR is in temporary solutions or when under time constraints.
-> I'm like this when I deal with family in general (what's with the implied transcience... =/ )

4. Avoiding "I'll think about it Tomorrow"
Low assertiveness and cooperativeness, and it means none of the parties involved are satisfied. The goal is to delay. Appropriate when dealing with issues of low importance, reducing tensions, buying time.
-> I'm like this in general relationships with other homo sapiens. Non-committal & non-conflicting. Social butterfly.

5. Accommodating "It would be my Pleasure"
Low assertiveness and high cooperativeness, involving acts of self-generosity or obeying orders, with the goal being to yield. This mode is useful for showing reasonableness, developing performance, creating goodwill and raising issues of low importance.
-> I'm like this in most classes I think (low importance..? no wonder class participation grade sucks)